Comments on: What If?

By: lyndaspix

lyndaspix — Thu, 29 May 2008 16:59:50 +0000

What if…I’ve often wondered that myself. My “what ifs” are along a little different vein than yours right now, but I can see myself going to that place in the not-too-distant future.

I like the community idea too, we take care of each other!

By: shadowlands1501

shadowlands1501 — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:10:18 +0000

Frank
The “What If’s” are without end…When my son was injuried in the military and then struck by a car, his head injury started my “what ifs”.
I begged God to allow my son to stay here on this earth so that ” I would not be alone” (That was before my husband’s diagnosis)
Somehow, I equated the loss of my son with being totally alone.
The odds that my son will out live me are slim. With my husband’s cancer and with my son’s condition, I run the same odds of being alone in my later years as you, Jonas and Linda.

But, after reading Linda’s comment, I like the sound of this little community.
See, another answer to the “What Ifs” that we would have never imagined, or did we just do that. *smile*

By: Frank

Frank — Fri, 23 May 2008 23:33:22 +0000

linda,
i think all of us who are going to end up alone like you and i will just make a little commune and watch over each other. After thinking for moment we may have big commune with all of the people i have gotten to know and in the same way. Thanks for stopping bye. Frank

By: Frank

Frank — Fri, 23 May 2008 23:29:41 +0000

Jonas, thanks for visiting. yes i suppose overall you are right, in that there are no real answers. Yet, it becomes a real problem for the lonely. i don’t adjust, nor handle things well when I am alone–so I think!! Frank

By: croneandbearit

croneandbearit — Fri, 23 May 2008 17:14:42 +0000

Hi Frank – Your “Momma” is lucky to have you there with her. I notice you mention a sister, maybe you can grow old together? I have no family except my husband and statistically speaking I will outlive him. So, looks like I’ll be alone, too, one day. But, I try not to worry about that – I believe God will take care of me somehow, if I don’t give him too much lip in the meantime! Hugs to you Frank – Linda

By: Jonas

Jonas — Fri, 23 May 2008 15:15:38 +0000

I would guess that all who enter old age alone confront these basic questions. How can we not?

There are no answers. We can only hope…

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Windows » What If? — Fri, 16 May 2008 04:46:01 +0000

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By: Frank

Frank — Fri, 16 May 2008 04:40:57 +0000

Johnny, I was just thinking about you and was out reading other blogs and returning to read your current post. Thanks for stopping by–Yes, that is why I think that I have a blog, and that is to write and sort out a lot of stuff that floats in my head. Come back again…….You are good at understanding!!

By: johnnypeepers

johnnypeepers — Fri, 16 May 2008 04:24:52 +0000

Hey Frank. I appreciate you writing about the ongoing struggles. It is an effective way for you to not only to communicate to others, but to talk to yourself. I know in some psychology/anger management/ 12-step programs, they recommend that you sit down and write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you. By transcribing the thoughts, we are better able to understand the emotions behind them.

I also have a parent who is experiencing physical and psychological deterioration. It is an odd turnabout to go from the child to the parent, but it completes the cycle of live. Best of luck